Encouraging Good Puppy Playtime Manners!

How to Play with Your Puppy!

Puppies love to play! As a new puppy owner, you will be in for loads of playtime -- chase, fetch, tug-of-war, search, there’s a lot of games for your pup and you to enjoy together! But what’s good playing and what’s not?

Puppies play for a variety of developmental reasons that we’ll cover a little later on. But the main thing to remember is that as the owner, your training will help encourage positive puppy playtime manners. When puppies play with their litter mates, it’s normal for them to explore and play with their mouths. Oftentimes when a pup becomes over-stimulated or tired, they can get nippy with each other. But now that your pup is home with you, you’ll need to train your puppy how not to do that with their new family! Understanding your pup’s normal play behavior is very important as you embark on training them what’s acceptable and what isn’t. When you can spot your puppy starting to exhibit some bad activities, like chewing on your hands and not their chew toys, you’ll be able to take certain steps to curb that behavior! Now, let’s dive into how to watch out for certain cues during playtime and how to encourage good manners!  

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Playtime is a great place to establish good habits and expectations with your pup for their future behavior while having fun! Set clear and consistent boundaries so your pup understands what they should and shouldn’t do.
— Tip from The Puppy Academy Trainer, Josh

Why is Puppy Playtime Important?

Puppies play for a variety of reasons, primarily to learn how to socialize and test their own boundaries. But while some people think it’s just them being “cute”, play activities are vitally important for their physical growth and mental development! During play, a puppy will exercise their muscles, growing stronger and testing out their agility! And, they will work their mental muscles, retaining important obedience commands, social and communication skills.

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Exercise - At The Puppy Academy, our trainers like to say “a tired puppy is a happy us!” Exercise definitely is an important part of playtime. Your puppy can relieve some of their excess energy and boredom in a healthy and productive way. If your puppy becomes destructive, for example, starts chewing up your furniture, chances are they need a little more activity and the appropriate stimulation such as chew toys. But tiring out your puppy should come in moderation. Play with your puppy in sessions no longer than 15-20 minutes. 

Note: Even a pup that’s received play and exercise can still get into some mischief if left unattended! They’ll still want to explore and chew on things so make sure that you provide some structure after playing like placing your pup in their crate or a playpen if you can’t monitor them.

Mental Stimulation - Play is a great way to give your puppy something to do and work towards, not just so they’re physically motivated but mentally, too. Some toys and games, like Kongs, are specifically designed to work their brains, making your puppy think and work, followed by a rewarding treat and play! Depending on the type of breed your puppy is, you can also research different types of games to play with them that suit their natural drives. For example, training your retriever pup “Fetch” is an excellent way to stimulate their brain by getting them to listen to your commands while providing adequate exercise. Plus, it’s super fun for both of you! These types of activities really alleviate their boredom and help to preoccupy their time.

Bonding - There’s no question that playtime really encourages a special connection between you and your puppy! Playfulness is one of the main reasons your puppy learns to trust and love you. Playing with a toy with your puppy helps you to bond with your puppy through leadership. You become the provider of the toy and initiate the play which is fun! It’s all an opportunity for you to learn to understand your pup’s little quirks, antics, and their true personality! 

Training - Certain playtime sessions are a great way to incorporate puppy training. If your puppy is enrolled in a puppy training class, you can use playtime to enforce commands like “Come, Drop-it, Sit and Fetch” when playing with toys. 

Socialization - Of course, if you place your puppy into puppy training classes or even take them on play dates, playing with other puppies helps them establish more social skills. During playtime with other puppies, your pup will start to understand their bite inhibition and other puppies’ boundaries. At times, puppies will yelp if another puppy nips too hard signaling to the nipping pup to stop. This activity is a natural and beneficial learning experience for all puppies to understand good manners amongst each other. Make sure playtimes are monitored and step in to help out when needed.

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Encourage Positive Puppy Playtime

Now that you understand why incorporating puppy playtime is important for your pup’s growth and development, take some time to learn how to manage your pup’s behavior during playtime together!

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Sometimes, if your puppy becomes over-excited during play, they might target your hands or feet (they’re like puppy magnets!). Don’t worry, your puppy doesn’t hate you, it’s actually totally normal. Hands and feet move, so they’re very fascinating for your pup! Try to a bigger tug toy and train your puppy to grab a specific spot. TIP: Grab a hold of the tug on both sides and present it to your pup rather than having them jump up. This way you can direct your puppy where to bite the toy.

Puppies with high energy levels might need to learn the “Drop-it” command earlier on. If your puppy refuses to let go of their toy, you can teach "Drop-it" by using another toy or treat they love. With the original toy in their mouth, tell them to "Drop-it" then show them the new toy or food. When they release it, say "Good!" and reward them with that new toy or treat!

Sometimes, we can inadvertently amp our puppies up with our own energy, tone of voice, and movements. They want to do what you’re doing after all! 

If your pup is overly-excited, watch your energy level and tone of voice you're using, and be calm in order to help your pup calm down. If that doesn’t work, initiate a play break and let them settle down in their crate or a playpen with a chew toy.

When playing with your pup, read their energy and adjust yours accordingly. An overexcited puppy needs calmer energy from you, and a more mellow puppy needs higher energy.
— Tip from The Puppy Academy Trainer, Sparky

To help you work on instilling good play behaviors in your pup, here are some dos and don’ts that you can follow to encourage good manners!

DO: Engage in games like fetch to stimulate your puppy’s natural drive. Also, incorporate mental games or toys like Kongs to keep your puppy’s focus and energy engaged!

DO: Encourage your puppy to practice basic obedience commands while playing! This makes learning something new, fun and rewarding for them!

DO: Incorporate playtime sessions as part of your puppy’s daily routine! Making the time will help you maintain consistency with enforcing basic obedience and good behaviors!

DO: Monitor your own energy levels and tone of voice. Be excited if you want your pup excited! Be calm if you want your pup to calm down.

DON’T: Allow bad behavior to continue during playtime. If your puppy starts to chew on you or something they shouldn’t during playtime, simply follow the steps we mentioned earlier in this section! Also, over-stimulation or being over-tired oftentimes is the culprit and a quick nap may be the best trick!

DON’T: Allow your puppy to continue to snap and nip at you! Playtime is valuable socialization and allowing those behaviors will instill that it’s okay for them to do so. 

DON’T: Reprimand rough play by getting emotional, yelling or becoming physical. Using a calm, stern "No" is perfectly acceptable as long as it's backed up with training guidance.

DON’T: Leave your puppy unsupervised during playtime, especially with chew toys they can pull apart and ingest. 

Playing with your hands, along with the intensity of play you allow with your puppy, can lead to more problems as they grow into adulthood and get bigger and stronger. Use a toy to play with them instead of your hands, don’t allow rough play, and stop play when it escalates too much to encourage your pup to settle.
— Tip from The Puppy Academy Trainer, Rebecca
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Your time with your puppy, especially in their first year, will include plenty of playtime sessions! Take each one as an opportunity to enforce good manners and habits. Doing this now will help you prepare your puppy for a life that is full of good interactions with other dogs and people. 

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Know Your Puppy’s Body Language!

Do you ever get the feeling your puppy is trying to tell you something? Those loving eyes, happy yips, and of course, the excited tail wag! You’re not wrong! Understanding what your puppy is communicating will make your relationship all that much stronger!

Puppy body language is the first form of communication our pups have to demonstrate what they are feeling and when socializing with other dogs and people. It’s up to you as a new puppy owner to learn and understand those signals in order to best communicate with them. Unlike us, where we can just say what we’re feeling or need, our pups have to show it through their eyes, ears, mouth, tail, posture, and fur -- yes their fur! Little body cues that reveal volumes of information for us to understand what’s going on inside our pup’s mind. Why is this important? Not knowing the puppy body language cues can mean you may not be fully understanding what your puppy needs and what they’re feeling. Familiarize yourself with basic cues that all puppies and eventually grown dogs use to communicate with us, other dogs and people! 

As a new owner, you’re going to be tackling basic puppy training, socialization, and introducing your puppy to the world; knowing whether your puppy is happy or anxious can make the difference in helping them to grow up well-adjusted to different situations. 

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What are the Body Language Cues?

Puppy body language involves their entire body: the eyes, ears, mouth, tail, and fur. Your pup’s overall posture broadcasts different emotions such as excitement or nervousness. Each cue on their own could mean a variety of things, so it’s important to learn them and take into account their entire disposition, not just one portion of it, to best gauge what your puppy is actually feeling!

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Eyes

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Your pup will be giving you loads of puppy eyes their entire life! Don’t you want to know what’s behind them? 

Droopy, low eyelids or even slow blinks can indicate your puppy is happy and relaxed. They may do this when getting pet on the ears or belly rubs!

Wide-open eyes or “whale eyes” when you can see the whites of your pup’s eyes are their way of saying they are alert to something or someone, and feel unsure and need some space. 

If your puppy is averting their eyes, it's possible they are anxious about the situation and they need some space, or they are exhibiting signs of softness and submissiveness. Dilated pupils or locking eyes in puppies and dogs may be a sign of them potentially being overwhelmed, overstimulated or over-aroused. Too much arousal can lead to a risky situation, so give your puppy extra space if you notice this happening. However, this can also just mean your puppy just wants to pounce excitedly on another puppy or human to play! This is why it’s important to take the time to observe the rest of your pup’s demeanor. A good indicator to decipher between the two scenarios is if you notice your pup's hackles (the fur running down their spine) up and/or them puffing out their chest to make them look bigger, then it would be a good idea to give some more space.

Mouth and Teeth

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They may not be able to speak (well, some can if you train them too!), but your puppy’s mouth is definitely telling you something! 

A partially open mouth with tongue sticking out means your puppy is relaxed and happy, usually when they are getting pets and cuddles. Occasionally, puppies will open their mouth and show their teeth, but it's just over-excitement rather than indicating something bad. Think of it more as a happy grin! Usually, this excitement is accompanied by a wagging tail or wiggly butt.

If your puppy is pulling their lips back, showing their canines and nipping, especially at another puppy, this often means they're overly-aroused and need to be separated. A skilled trainer can help you address how to navigate through this behavior. 

Sometimes during play, one pup can get overzealous and start to target a submissive puppy. If the submissive pup yelps out, it's important to advocate for the submissive pup by initiating a play break. By doing this more and more you'll learn your puppy's tendencies and be able to catch them sooner.

Pro Tip: Prevention vs. reaction is more beneficial in a socialization situation like this! Make sure you are monitoring your puppy during playtime and separate the pups if need be. If your puppy tends to be more on the submissive side, you don't want them constantly to get picked on by over-confident puppies. 

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Ears

Straight up or floppy, your puppy’s ears are communicating loads of emotions! 

Some ear shapes are easier to read than others but for the most part, ears standing up and facing forward can signify alertness. Whereas pinned-back ears can signify being nervous or unsure, but they can also mean they're relaxed and submissive if accompanied by a wagging tail. The best way to really gauge what your puppy body language is saying is to look at the rest of their body and overall demeanor.

Tail

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Your puppy’s tail is perhaps the most expressive and easiest to read! 

A wagging tail generally means a happy puppy but sometimes, and depending on the rest of their body language, could be sending out a different signal. If your pup is wiggling their hind and wagging their tail, they are showing you they are happy!

While a stiff wagging tail pointing straight up can mean your pup is either alert to something or someone, or they feel overstimulated and need some space to relax. 

Fur

Did you know that your puppy’s soft and fluffy fur isn’t just for show? It’s one of their tools for communicating with you and other pups!

The fur along your puppy’s spine also known as hackles will stand up if your puppy is excited, over-aroused, or overwhelmed with a situation or energy. It may not be always clear and sometimes can be involuntary but if you read the rest of your puppy’s body language combined with raised hackles, you can gauge your puppy’s emotions! 

Posture

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Taking all the different cues into account, your puppy’s entire body is communicating to you! 

If you notice that your puppy is stretching, they are most likely chill, relaxed, and happy! And a wiggly, loose body means they are very relaxed and happy! Know the term “downward dog”? Well in yoga it means a specific post, but for puppies, it can mean play!

Dominant puppies tend to carry themselves much differently than submissive puppies. You might notice your puppy pushing, bumping into or leaning into other puppies. They are “walking tall” and showing off their assertiveness. 

Whereas a puppy who flattens their ears lowers themselves to the ground or even tucks their tail between their legs is showing submission. If your puppy rolls over on their back, exposing their belly, it can be a show of submission and a level of comfort with you. But it can also mean they are uncomfortable, so keep an eye on the other behaviors they're showing!

For us at The Puppy Academy, picking up on these nonverbal cues really helps during puppy training and to encourage proper behaviors. Observing as the puppies play and interact, we can easily tell if a student is very confident or shyer, and we can match them with other puppies of similar temperaments to socialize with. We’ll also step in to regulate the play intensity levels and help instill positive play interactions and good habits between them as the puppies learn and grow.

Do You Know Your Puppy’s Body Language?

As your puppy grows into adolescence and adulthood, so too will their behaviors develop, especially when it comes to socializing and interacting with other dogs and people. Over time, you’ll start to hone your skills and instincts to understand your puppy’s body language. However, knowing what to look out for in the beginning when you first get your puppy can help you start to build a trusting bond, facilitate you in puppy training, and be aware of cues your puppy is sending in different situations and how best to address them! 

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